Guess what I just realized?
Couples libido’s are rarely equal.
One of the most common problems that couples face in their relationships is a mismatched libido. This happens when one person has a higher sex drive than the other person, and it is a completely normal imbalance that can vary from time to time.
Although this is normal, mismatched libidos can sometimes lead to tension and confusion about things in a couple's sexual relationship. ⚡
Thankfully, this is a solvable problem.
Here are some tips on how you can keep each other happy in the bedroom despite not having the same level of sexual drive.
1. Understand that not having the same level of sex drive is NOT A PROBLEM.
Rather, discuss the fact that it is a general imbalance that can be simply improved through open-communication, experimentation, and collaboration.
2. Have an open-discussion on what is causing the dip in one’s libido.
Just because one doesn't want to have sex, doesn't mean there's something wrong with their partner.
There are many factors that can affect a person's libido, such as mental health state, medication, to different problems in the relationship that have nothing to do with one's physical attractiveness and worth.
3. Explore other ways to be intimate with your partner.
There are instances when communicating what you need and what you want is a better idea than just completely shutting someone down with a flat-out "Not tonight."
Be open to what you need and want. Whether that be just plain making out, masturbating together using your favorite sex toy, or simply having a deep conversation there is usually a happy medium that can be reached.